Upbringing of a Pakistani girl - Realities

 

Pakistan is ranked 151 in global gender gap out of 153 countries. So here the typical discussion of a patriotic society ends; that they give proper respect and rights of women. The rights of a women are most neglected thing in our society. No one want to talk about it. When a woman herself talk about her rights she is tagged with different names. Women faced unequal behaviour in all the aspects of society. In Pakistan minimum 90% of women even don't know about her rights. She takes it as the custom and norm of culture but she should be aware that human rights are important than any culture, norm and customs.

The main question is that; why women didn't raise voice for her freedom? The answer it is their upbringing. Submissive behaviour is something like a default setting in our systems. Growing as a girl we are told that you should be delicate, fragile and you should never raise your voice in front of male family member. People gift her soft delicate dolls and little household items toys and this thing is embedded in her mind-set that she is no more than this but to boys’ toy cars and bicycles and machinery is gifted. When a little girl gets hurt and cry, we sooth her and comfort her but when the same thing happens to a little boy we often listen "don't cry and be a man, boys never cry". So this discrimination is coming from our psychological upbringing. We became so use to it that we never feel it an abnormal thing.

These little girls are too shy to talk about their self that often they couldn't tell her family that she is being molested or abused. Many little girls and young ladies are being raped then murdered but the society always blame them. When a woman is raped there is no one to blame the rapist. People always say that it's the girl mistakes, she wears provoking dress so it is ok to rape her. Victim shaming is now in the roots of our culture.

This kind of environment and brought up have many effects on the behaviour of a women. She never gets comfortable with her own selve. She is mentally tortured by her own family and even the right of higher education is not given to her. Her consent is not asked in her marriage proposals. If she ever gets out of these issues and reached a level where she want to do a job, then harassment is another big issue in her life.  Her inheritance rights are not given and there is a non ending list of these inequalities.

Now is the time to stand up against these discriminations. Its ok to talk about her body and to choose what she is comfortable wearing. It’s her right to choose her husband. It is only her who has to decide that which is the field she want to join. She is the most beautiful women the way she is. She is not a property of any man. This is her life and she is the only one who should make decision about it. The society just need to accept her the way she is and give her the basic freedom and right to make her life the way she wants.  So women should stand up for her and mothers should take the first step to encourage and empower their daughters so they can fly high with full confidence on their selves. I hope that their will come a time when Pakistani women will enjoy equal rights and stand high in society.